Too busy 

Recently I have met so many people who say I am ‘too busy’.  To me this does not bode well. 

When we become too busy and find it fashionable to be busy, are we in fact misleading us about our lives? 

Our body and mind matters more than you realize. Take time in the morning to have a cup of tea. To stand outside and breathe in fresh air. To look at old pictures in the evening and remind yourself how many awesome moments and memories you have created. 

Look at your week. Have you made time for you to try something new? Sometimes something new does not need to cost a fortune. Are we comfortable and happy when we find excuses and complaints? 

That 5 minutes you spend on social media, could me 5 minutes you sit down learn a new word or a foreign phrase. 

There is no one with a magic wand waiting to sprinkle fairy dust on you. If you have settled into being a complainer who prefers to be busy doing nothing,  no one can help you. As the saying goes, ‘only a fool would value someone more than that someone values themselves. ‘ 

I ask you. This week be ‘unbusy’ make time to focus on you. Put your social media aside for a bit. Your life is happening whilst you are being busy doing nothing. 

You are ‘busy’ ‘liking’ stuff online whilst the rest of the world is living life offline. 

You have what it takes. Get out there and make it work!!! 

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Time to talk

That moment when you feel your head buzzing. You can’t quite think of what you need to think.

You try to rationalize with yourself. Your mind feels torn and you feel in a boxing ring. Your rationale and emotional thoughts having knockout rounds.

You can’t fall asleep. You wake feel tired. Your hair is a mess and having a warm cup of tea is tasteless. You put on that robotic smile and pull on something to wear. It’s clean and pressed so it will do.

Putting on a smile seems so hard. You walk by people, they look so happy. Effortless. You cry within. Your soul feels traumatized. But you need the job. You need the money. You keep telling yourself that. You hate yourself for needing it. But you do.

You go into work.

You function.

You have become someone who is a functional depressive.

You plough through the day. Struggling to hear what people are saying. Trying to focus. Can no one see how you are feeling?


Someone notices you and asks “are you ok?”

You nod. Half smile and reply “I’m ok, had a late night”.

You are functional.

You get on a train. People look in your direction. Some stare. You feel perhaps they can see what you are thinking. You look away and feel a dose of nervousness. Your chest feels weird. You feel impatient.

You need toiletries. You head to the shops.

You function.

You head home. Get into the bed. Shopping in the bag still. You feel mentally and emotionally exhausted. You eat because you have to. You question your existence.

Your mum calls you.

You function.

She asks how you are doing. You reply that you are fine and had a long day.

You lie.

You feel miserable and wonder if anyone cares. Then you tell yourself that you are strong. You feel naked for crying. You go into social media and like a few pictures and posts. You feel like a society reject.

You function.


You are amazing. The fact that you got through the day is enough. Don’t chide yourself.

In the past year on my Facebook live videos I have been banging on about mental health and finding wellness. It’s not a fad. It’s real and it is personal.

You function. But life is more than about functioning , it is about living it and loving it.

It is about you enjoying being you. About having a spring in your step and love ❤️ in your heart.

There is always someone willing to listen. However, if you do not listen to yourself, no one will really listen to you.


It starts with you.

Tips to heal your mind and soul.

You are enough. Understand that.

The past is the past. Accept that.

Everyday is a day to get life in the shape you want it. Feel that.

Friendships are two sided, and it is ok to share. Trust that.

Nothing is set in stone. Believe that.

You have the power within to improve your power on the outside. Search for that.

You are the love you are searching for. Embrace that.

You are valued. You are you, unique, brave and loved.

Whatever feels like the end, is not. Do not give in to it. You are so much and more. Trust it.

What’s up?

Recently, and especially with the festive season, jingle bells et al, a large portion of my clients have been feeling blah. 


That weird feeling, neither here nor there or as my aunt would say not sure ‘whether you are Arthur or Martha!’ We all feel blah. It’s natural. There is a little box within us that want things to feel ideal, smooth, happy. We just sometimes don’t have the energy for it. 


You are happy. You just don’t realise it. As much as you can be sad you can be happy. That darn effort to feel it however just feels like too much. So we end up feeling Blah and can slip into feeling irritable, moody, angry, bitter. Basically as long as we leave it to fester we end up feeling like a bitter complaining cow. 

My steps are easy to kick this blah! 


Make a list of everything you need to get done. Go out to a coffee shop and sit with your list. Fresh air and a change of scenery is bonus points for your soul. 


Don’t procrastinate. Make that date with yourself and plan to meet a friend or someone you love just after. This will give you the incentive to get going! 

Have your vitamin levels checked. With busy lifestyles and when we encounter stress and trauma, our energy levels take a hit. Who knows the Dr might be a hottie, if that fails, your nutrition will thank you later for taking an interest in it. 

Get moving! Dancing, jump parks, dance classes or a good night out with friends. Awaken your adrenaline and let your soul feel on fire. 


Blag it!!! Smile. It becomes contagious. People become more receptive of you and you increase the positive aura around you. Nobody wants to initiate a conversation with a nagging bitter person. 

Apologise! Sometimes we hurt someone’s feelings and we are left with the residue of being a big old meanie. Get it off your chest. Saying sorry won’t kill you. It would actually help delete a few notches of stress. 

Focus on you! Yes, you. Dress up. Look great. Not for anyone but for yourself. If you look like you can’t be bothered with yourself. You then put the question out there. Why should anyone else be bothered with you? You are unique. Embrace it! 

Avoid comparing yourself to others. Everyone is awesome in our own way. We are all diamonds. Some shine brighter because they make a teensy more effort. Stop focusing on fixing the world, your partner, family etc one day a week and put that energy on fixing yourself. 
Don’t kill yourself over a relationship that’s ended. No man nor woman is worth dying for! 


And lastly, be grateful that you are you. Each day, someone out there thinks about you and smiles. They feel grateful for you. Feel grateful for being you. 

Karmic Tarot. 

Sometimes we feel so stuck in a situation. We end up feeling angered. Frustrated and feel that no answer is correct. That no matter how hard we try we end up in circles. 

I believe that your Soul chooses its parent for the purpose of continuing on a Karmic Journey. We have a Karmic contract to fulfil with our Creator. 

This includes crossing paths with kindred  spirits and going through certain relationships where we end up in square one. A Karmic relationship is different from a Soulmate. A Karmic Relationship is something that we have to go through to fulfil a karmic lesson and in turn get steps closer to our higher Souls purpose. 

In an everyday conversation, this sounds weird. This sounds ridiculous, but have you ever had a friendship, business partnership or relationship that just tugs at your soul and no matter how frustrating and wrong it is you give in. 

You know it’s not what you want or need but you feel you have no other choice. You try to understand it and you feel torn? 

Karmic Tarot 

You will need to email one direct question to me and I will look at your Souls destiny and see if this is a Karmic lesson. How to make it work for you, or if you do need to walk away? This will be a 2 page email. The reading can take up to 2 weeks before you receive it. 

Cost : £30 

To do list prior to your appointment. 

hello darlings, 

Thank you for popping over to my blog. Recently I have had a few people call me 10 minutes into their appointment or prior to their appointment to cancel. 

This is Selfish behaviour. Let’s be nice. Practise does indeed make perfect.  

 
Plan your way to my office. Give yourself at least 15 minutes to find the place if you are unfamiliar. Sometimes your navigation system might not have updated. If you are travelling by car, note that there might be traffic. There might be road works. There might be something or the other. 

If you are travelling by public transport, the 119 brings you right outside of my offices. If in doubt, please contact me. 

  
By being late, you are cutting into your own appointment time. Unfortunately, I cannot allow other appointments to run late as I work within a business that closes at a certain time. I can therefore not eat into someone else’s time. 

  
Imagine how you would feel if your session was shortened due to someone else? Therefore let’s be on time. 
  
Lastly breathe, smile, relax and let me help you make the most out of your life. 
Thank you 

Mellissa

Am I fake? 

I used to be fake. I walked about lying. Pretending. Why? It was just easier. When you are just not ‘feeling it’ and you get those imposing questions asking you ‘how are you?’ What do you do? 

Did the question asked actually want to know that you broke a nil and it hurt. That you had a bad hair day and cried in the toilet! So I lied. I pretended and yes I was fake. 

I then asked myself ‘why?’ For what reason was I removing myself from reality and starting to pretend that I was ok? It was not easy but I started reassessing me. Realising my strengths and figuring out me. 

That was a long time ago and I truly feel so super empowered now. I embrace my emotions. High and low. Yes, if my handbag strap breaks and I feel annoyed. I embrace that! If I wake up to the sound of birds singing outside my window I embrace that. 
This is my reality. 

Embrace your emotions. Own your life. Life is too short to hide how you feel or to not be who you are. 

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